These past few months have been interesting to say the least. I’ve learned about the power of energy and how my thoughts can shift nearly any situation from bad to good. Armed with this superpower, I've approached life with as much optimism and gusto as I could muster and watched in amazement as the universe has - again and again - worked in my favor.
It's been fun but I'm not going to say it's been easy. One of the first things I needed to learn (and continue to learn) is that before I can flex my "manifestation muscles" I have to be clear in my intentions. Why? Because the universe won't know what to deliver to me if I'm not clear on what I want.
I'm sure most of you think that identifying your intentions should be the easiest part of manifesting your reality, but if that was the case, we would all be happily swimming in whatever it is that we believe we truly want. Living in a place that is known as the mecca of dream-seekers and goal oriented people - Los Angeles - I've seen a lot of dreams fall by the wayside. Not because people haven't worked hard enough or because the opportunities weren't available to them but because they're not clear on their intentions. For example, if a person's biggest dream is to be an actress, we might assume that their main intention is to explore different personalities by embodying them. Perhaps they like being in front of crowds. Maybe they want to make lots of money. All three of those reasonings are three totally different intentions. You can be in front of a crowd as a standup comedian or an athlete. You might make lots of money by being a lawyer or a doctor. Exploring different personalities can be achieved through entering the field of psychology. This is not to say that these intentions aren't valid reasons to become an actress, but rather that if acting doesn't fulfill these core desires, there's a huge possibility that you may not be manifesting it for a reason.
So with meditation I've been practicing making sure that my intentions are clear, so that I can be sure that I'm manifesting exactly what I want and also in order to take the quickest route to my dream. For example, if my ultimate goal/intention is to have a career in entertainment, there's no point in me applying to jobs at a local news station (which is something that I actually did and couldn't figure out why it didn't work).
With that said, go out and get what you want. And if you're wondering what's the delay, take inventory of your intentions. Perhaps that might be the key.
I’m sure the title sounds dramatic, but I’m trying to get your attention here.
Black women all over the world are some of the most stressed out people on the planet. We work hard and raise our families in conditions that are wayyyyyyy less than ideal in a world that mostly caters to men and white people. In other words, we have the short end of the stick no matter how you cut it. Outside of mother earth herself, it’s hard to find a group that’s been marginalized and exploited worse.
And so after reading yet another article about how black women are affected at a disproportionate rate by some horrible ailment (this time maternal death in child birth) I had to ask*…
WHY CAN’T BLACK WOMEN SEEM TO CATCH A FRICKING BREAK?!?!
This question plagued me day after day. It plagued me while doing yoga at the gym. It plagued me during my evening meditation. It plagued me while cooking dinner with my husband. It plagued me at my Black women’s writing group. It plagued me while I did all of these wonderful self-care things that always managed to lift my spirits, relieve my stress, keep me healthy and help me to connect with the world around me. And then it hit me… most of us aren’t doing these things. A phone call with my sister proved my point. In between her yelling at her rambunctious children (she has 5 total and a father in-law and a husband who live with her… so I guess you can say she’s taking care of 7 people in all) I could barely get a word in.
“Caressa, are you meditating?” I asked her.
“Am I what? Hold on… DON’T SHUT THE DOOR CAYLEE! (pause) WELL, LET YOUR SISTER IN AND THEN SHUT THE DOOR! Uh, yeah… meditating. No. (laughs) What’s that?"
My family has a history of heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes and breast cancer. We also have a history of being caretakers for everyone on God’s green earth except ourselves. With all of the benefits of meditation, we should be at the top of the list of people who practice this form of self-care but guess what? We’re not. And my family is far from special. I can count on one hand how many Black women that I know personally who meditate. And I know way too many hard-working, selfless Black women for this to be something that I can say with confidence.
Could you imagine what kind of world we would live in if we started to heal the group that is most at risk for stress related illnesses? I can. It would be a wonderful place.
And so my venture has begun. I’m asking as many people to join this cause as possible. It’s small right now but I’m patient. Yes, I’m targeting this movement toward Black women but I invite all women and men to join us. We are changing the world starting with the group that gets overlooked and overworked the most and working our way out from there.
So I will end by saying this… Black women, I see you. I see the work you put in for your families. The work you put in at your jobs. The stress. The trauma. The feeling of being ignored. Wondering when you can catch a break. The treatment that you get from others. I see you and I will continue to fight for you. We’re all in this together. Let’s save ourselves. Only then can we start to see real change in this world.
*Sex and the City reference :)